Do You Want To Use The Time You Have Left Here on Feeling Lousy or on Feeling Good?
We all have those people in our lives who seem to always seek out the negatives even in a sea of positives. You know, the people who immediately after winning the lottery would say “Yea, but the taxes!” The amazing thing about these folks though, is that if you asked them if they were using negative words, creating negative actions and in general just being negative, they would say no! They would, as we also know, be wrong about that!
So, here’s two things I want to say…
1• You are not their private post office so they can deposit their negativity with you!
2• Whether you are one of these people or someone who is a “sounding board” for them, FIND A WAY TO FIND THE JOY IN LIFE!
Let’s tackle this one first…
1• You are not their private post office so they can deposit their negativity with you!
It’s up to each of us to realize that what we allow in, what we allow ourselves to soak up into our psyche is completely up to us! During the course of the day we will be hit with these “Special Delivery” packages of negativity from many different directions. Realize what they are, listen for the message but don’t allow them to stay with you. Don’t obsess over them or constantly recount them through the day. If you can do something to make them better, do it! If you can’t do something at that point in time, “Let Them Go!”
This isn’t being uncaring. If you allow their negative energy to weigh you down, and it will, you aren’t living the life you should be, can and most importantly, Deserve To Be Living!”
(Strive to be aware of your words, your moods and your energy. Constantly ask yourself if they are positive or negative. Then, listen for the honest answer and adjust from there.)
Now on to this which is in many cases, much more difficult…
2• Whether you are one of these people or someone who is a “sounding board” for them, FIND A WAY TO FIND THE JOY IN LIFE!
Sounds so simple does it? “Find A Way To Find The Joy In Life.” The only trouble is, because we’re human beings, we’re much more apt to notice the negatives in life than the positive. I’m fond of telling folks to “Enjoy Life! Enjoy What They Can and as for the Things They Can’t, WELL ENJOY THEM TOO!”
The real truth is that there is plenty to enjoy if we’re willing to. From simple things like being grateful for a roof over your head, your dog or cat snuggling, remembering tonight’s the night your favorite TV program is on and more…to life’s major joys that might present themselves from time to time. Things like Love, Marriage, Advancement, Hope, etc.
Don’t just recognize these harbingers of enjoyment, REACH OUT, GRAB THEM, HOLD THEM, EXPERIENCE THEM AND THEN TELL OTHERS ABOUT THEM! So often we are much more willing to share something negative than we are something positive. You don’t believe me? Try this…
On Facebook one day ask people for the worst experience they’ve ever had with a business. (Restaurant, Customer Service, etc…) Then, a couple of days later ask people for the best experience they’ve ever had. I don’t think I have to tell you which of the two will have the most feedback. TELL OTHERS ABOUT YOUR JOY IN LIFE! TALK TO OTHERS ABOUT THE GOOD THINGS! CALL SOMEONE UP JUST TO TELL THEM SOMETHING GOOD!
Look, we’re only here until we aren’t! There comes a time when we all need to ask ourselves if we want to use that time to feel lousy and whine and complain or find a way to enjoy what life has offered up. Yep, many times it’s harder and we need to put more work into it. But, it’s up to you…
Do You Want To Use The Time You Have Left Here on Feeling Lousy or on Feeling Good?
(I’m confident that you’ll choose the right one!)
So, ENJOY….
Peace
Gregg